So I went out on Friday night with a bunch of my former classmates - we all met at a restaurant on the westside and then decided to do a little barhopping post sushi and sake-bombing.
Immediately when I walked into the bar and made my way over to the group I noticed a very cute, very tall gentleman and decided to strike up a conversation. He was from New Zealand and was very impressed that I was able to guess his accent. He was there with 3 of his very cute friends. We all spent the evening playing giant Jenga, drinking and dancing, and eventually decided to get some late night food. (I simply can not resist diners or texmex late at night - we ate the former).
So...one of Mr. Kiwi's friends was very, very cute...and much more my type. I don't know if it was something abour Mr. Kiwi holding him back or maybe he noticed me sneaking glances at his friend - but he KEPT asking me what I thought of his friend, Penn. (Oh yes, Penn and Penny, I can hear the jokes being written now). I asked why he was so curious and pushing his friend on me - if maybe he had a girlfriend, or wasn't interested - but he never gave me a straight answer... So when it came time to decide whether I was going to go eat, I played a little switcheroo game. (hehe ;-). I told Penn that Mr. Kiwi kept saying I should be interested in him and asking me what I thought of him and I was curious why that was... this, of course, immediately sparked Penn's interest in me and he insisted we go to the diner. He also walked the 10 blocks with me while the rest of the group drove over.
During our walk we talked a bit about family and business - and just generally had a really nice conversation. Right before we got to the diner he stopped me and kissed me very sweetly and asked if he could get my number before we rejoined the group. I gave it to him (naturally). Fast forward to the end of the night and Mr. Kiwi walked me back to my car and kissed me goodnight too! (Color me the kissing slut of the weekend). When I got home, it was Penn who had sent a text making sure I had gotten home okay. (As you may know from previous posts, this is something I really like when men do). I told him I did.
On Saturday - my friend Zooey invited me over to her apartment to "hang out." When I walked in, it became immediately obvious to me that it was a set-up because there was a very attractive man sitting in the living room drinking wine with Zooey's boyfriend Brandon. (Over the years, I have dated several guys with his same name, so let's just call him, Number 8). Well - Number 8 and I got along swimmingly. After killing a bottle of wine, we all decided to go get more drinks at a fancy hotel in Beverly Hills called the SLS. (We may or may not have also added some more earthy-type drugs to the evening's festivities, maybe...). Fast forward to Number 8 and I having a slumber party on the living room floor of Zooey and Brandon's apartment and staying up until dawn talking and laughing - and getting a bit heavy. (i.e. he is still not over his ex of 1 year who broke up with him "out of the blue" 3 months ago - I knew all this, but it was nice that he told me).
Later in the day, Number 8 invited me over to his place to hang out and have a chill night, since our previous night was slightly less than chill. I ended up staying over at his place and we walked and got coffee in the morning - he even respected my wanting to move slowly physically. Everything went really well until one of his dogs bit my dog. He was mortified and I tried not to make him feel bad - but it will be a looong time until I want to bring my baby around his again. If ever.
Then, last night, I got a text from my friend Kenny. I don't think I have mentioned Kenny before and he definitely deserves his own post - but he has been, and is, such a great support-system-slash-brother-type-slash-emotional-boyfriend-slash-occacional-hookup. (That last part is something that only happened the first night we met - and post-Parker in a moment of vulnerability). But he told me he missed me. And I liked it because I haven't seen him in two weeks and I miss him too. It's nice to know someone is thinking about me - and I like the honestly.
I almost forgot that attention from a bunch of different guys can feel pretty good and this whole dating thing doesn't have to be so serious all the time.
Showing posts with label dating more than one guy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating more than one guy. Show all posts
Tuesday, September 3, 2013
Monday, June 24, 2013
Dating Bender: Episode 5 - "Mr. Sunday"
Stats-
Name: Bernard (aka Mr. Sunday)
Age: 32
Height: 5'9"
Occupation: Movie Biz
Hometown: Philly
Currently Resides: West LA
The Date: Patio drinks in WeHo
As I said a couple times already, I was pretty excited for this date. I knew, at a minimum, we would have really good conversation and for me that is the key to avoiding the dreaded bad date. No attraction is a bummer, but you can always just dodge the kiss at the end of the evening with a nice "butt out, pat on the back" hug, but if the conversation is boring, a date will quickly start to feel like a visit to the gyno. (Most men would use a dentist reference there, but that's just because they don't have to go to the gyno...am I right, ladies? But, I digress...)
About 15 minutes before we were supposed to meet, Bernie sent a text that he was running 10 minutes late and told me not to rush. That was totally fine by me since I was running about 15 minutes late. When I finally arrived he said "I'm surprised I beat you here." I said, "Well you told me not to rush, so I took my time and let you get here first." He said, "good power move." (Hmm...what it actually was, was a good cover up for me just being later than him not a power play, but okay).
He already had a beer when I got there so I ordered myself a drink. We had good conversation, talked about what we do, our families, and ordered another round, which was a good sign. Then, as it turned out, one of his best friends was a manager there so we were sent over a complimentary appetizer that we didn't order. It was a nice gesture - I am not sure if it was supposed to show me how cool this guy is or if it was supposed to be a sign from the friend that he gave a thumbs up on my "hotness", both, or if I'm reading too much into it, but I was hungry so I appreciated it anyway.
He confessed that he was very hungover from the night before and I copped to the fact that I had plans to go bowling with some friends after so we tabbed out after our second round and called it an evening. He paid. We hugged (I didn't let him kiss me - I don't think you get that reward for a half-assed hangover date and discounted drinks at your friend's bar, sorry) At one point he even said to me, "If I wasn't as excited as I was to meet you I would have canceled." So I guess it was sort of a weird compliment...but all signs already point to this guy being a typical LA "dude." He suggested we do this again and I agreed, so I figure I'll hear from him at some point - probably in the requisite 3 days since he won't want to come off as too eager.
Chances I'll hear from him again: 4 out of 5
Here is the thing though - and I feel like a huge nerd for saying this - but I kind of understand what the "Bachelorette" must go through as we are all watching her going, "I can't believe she isn't into that guy, he is so amazing!" I think that if I didn't already have something developing with Parker I would have been a lot more psyched about Bernie. If Parker didn't exist, Bernie would be a great prospect for me - it's just really hard for someone to play catch-up in the feelings department.
That being said, if Bernie does call me to go out again, I am going to go. I owe that to myself.
And on the flip side of that, Parker and I are going on a hike tomorrow to introduce our dogs (seriously, could we be any cuter?)
Name: Bernard (aka Mr. Sunday)
Age: 32
Height: 5'9"
Occupation: Movie Biz
Hometown: Philly
Currently Resides: West LA
The Date: Patio drinks in WeHo
As I said a couple times already, I was pretty excited for this date. I knew, at a minimum, we would have really good conversation and for me that is the key to avoiding the dreaded bad date. No attraction is a bummer, but you can always just dodge the kiss at the end of the evening with a nice "butt out, pat on the back" hug, but if the conversation is boring, a date will quickly start to feel like a visit to the gyno. (Most men would use a dentist reference there, but that's just because they don't have to go to the gyno...am I right, ladies? But, I digress...)
About 15 minutes before we were supposed to meet, Bernie sent a text that he was running 10 minutes late and told me not to rush. That was totally fine by me since I was running about 15 minutes late. When I finally arrived he said "I'm surprised I beat you here." I said, "Well you told me not to rush, so I took my time and let you get here first." He said, "good power move." (Hmm...what it actually was, was a good cover up for me just being later than him not a power play, but okay).
He already had a beer when I got there so I ordered myself a drink. We had good conversation, talked about what we do, our families, and ordered another round, which was a good sign. Then, as it turned out, one of his best friends was a manager there so we were sent over a complimentary appetizer that we didn't order. It was a nice gesture - I am not sure if it was supposed to show me how cool this guy is or if it was supposed to be a sign from the friend that he gave a thumbs up on my "hotness", both, or if I'm reading too much into it, but I was hungry so I appreciated it anyway.
He confessed that he was very hungover from the night before and I copped to the fact that I had plans to go bowling with some friends after so we tabbed out after our second round and called it an evening. He paid. We hugged (I didn't let him kiss me - I don't think you get that reward for a half-assed hangover date and discounted drinks at your friend's bar, sorry) At one point he even said to me, "If I wasn't as excited as I was to meet you I would have canceled." So I guess it was sort of a weird compliment...but all signs already point to this guy being a typical LA "dude." He suggested we do this again and I agreed, so I figure I'll hear from him at some point - probably in the requisite 3 days since he won't want to come off as too eager.
Chances I'll hear from him again: 4 out of 5
Here is the thing though - and I feel like a huge nerd for saying this - but I kind of understand what the "Bachelorette" must go through as we are all watching her going, "I can't believe she isn't into that guy, he is so amazing!" I think that if I didn't already have something developing with Parker I would have been a lot more psyched about Bernie. If Parker didn't exist, Bernie would be a great prospect for me - it's just really hard for someone to play catch-up in the feelings department.
That being said, if Bernie does call me to go out again, I am going to go. I owe that to myself.
And on the flip side of that, Parker and I are going on a hike tomorrow to introduce our dogs (seriously, could we be any cuter?)
Friday, June 21, 2013
Juggling
Yeesh! So, one critical aspect of this whole dating bender idea that I didn't fully think through is the management of it. Keeping track of a bunch of guys, who they are, what they do, where they are from, what their families are like, etc. etc... is really complicated. Not to mention, when and where our plans are and where we actually are in the pre-dating, "making plans" process.
Case-in-point: Yesterday I got a phone call from a guy who had said he was going to call me over the weekend (meaning last weekend) to make plans this week. I had totally forgotten because he didn't call and now I am obviously VERY booked. His excuse was quite legitimate - a sick grandfather that he had to care for - but now I have this extra guy I have to fit into the rotation...oops! I guess he is just gonna get bumped to next week... ;-) I'm not complaining, this is what I set out to do and too many dates is a good problem to have, right?
Case-in-point #2: A few days ago I got a text message from the guy I have plans with tonight (Friday) wanting to confirm our plans and I also got a text message from the guy I had plans with on Wednesday confirming out plans for Wednesday. Obviously I responded to the Wednesday guy because he was the priority - but then I totally left the Friday guy hanging for over 24 hours because I straight up forgot about him! That's not usually my style, because it comes off as game-playing, but I guess that's kinda the point of this thing - to not let any one guy take up too much of my time. Well, it's already working...overtime!
That is why I have instituted the "Stats" listings that you may have seen on a couple of the posts so far. As I go through I may add some categories, particularly as I (hopefully) start to go on some second dates with a few of the guys. I've also taken to keeping notes on their "contact" entries in my phone.
Given the above, I'm starting to feel a little bit like this is a sociological experiment rather than fun dating - what do y'all think?
Case-in-point: Yesterday I got a phone call from a guy who had said he was going to call me over the weekend (meaning last weekend) to make plans this week. I had totally forgotten because he didn't call and now I am obviously VERY booked. His excuse was quite legitimate - a sick grandfather that he had to care for - but now I have this extra guy I have to fit into the rotation...oops! I guess he is just gonna get bumped to next week... ;-) I'm not complaining, this is what I set out to do and too many dates is a good problem to have, right?
Case-in-point #2: A few days ago I got a text message from the guy I have plans with tonight (Friday) wanting to confirm our plans and I also got a text message from the guy I had plans with on Wednesday confirming out plans for Wednesday. Obviously I responded to the Wednesday guy because he was the priority - but then I totally left the Friday guy hanging for over 24 hours because I straight up forgot about him! That's not usually my style, because it comes off as game-playing, but I guess that's kinda the point of this thing - to not let any one guy take up too much of my time. Well, it's already working...overtime!
That is why I have instituted the "Stats" listings that you may have seen on a couple of the posts so far. As I go through I may add some categories, particularly as I (hopefully) start to go on some second dates with a few of the guys. I've also taken to keeping notes on their "contact" entries in my phone.
Given the above, I'm starting to feel a little bit like this is a sociological experiment rather than fun dating - what do y'all think?
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Now we're getting somewhere...
If you have been reading this blog on even a semi-regular basis, this is the beginning of the posts you all have been waiting for! And BELIEVE me when I say I have been waiting to write them too...
First, a confession: I caved and finally ended up meeting up with Pointless Guy and as expected, it was pretty pointless. Not only is he awkward but it was obvious to me that all he is after is a hook up. I went over to his place to watch a move...after I made him apologize for the way he had been treating me and especially making him cop to his mishandling of the Thursday night situation. When I got there he was wearing PJs, and then when he started the movie he turned off all the lights and instantly tried to snuggle with me. I played it off pretty well, even kissed him a bit, but ended up bolting pretty quickly after the movie was over. Now, even though I've made up my mind about not being interested in him, I am glad I had the chance to find out for sure. And also, because I didn't sleep with him, I doubt if I'll be hearing from him anytime soon anyway.
Now for the fun stuff...oh, where do I begin...?
I am totally smitten with a former co-worker of mine! We went out for Happy Hour on Friday and then met up again on Saturday night. I think what I like about him so much (besides the fact that he is darn cute) is that we have really great, neverending conversations. There is an ease to our chemistry that makes it feel really comfortable to be with him.
A few early red(ish) flags:
1. He's younger than me (though he told me on Friday he like to date older girls, was that a hint?)
2. He is admittedly anti-commitment (for the next couple years while he gets himself established, so he says)
3. I'm not sure we're more than friends
As they say, "when it rains it pours," and in that vane, I met another great guy on Monday! I ended up having to go to the Cold War Kids show at the Parish alone because it sold out so quickly...so rather than beg people to go with me or sell my ticket, I just decided to get dolled up, go early, and make some new friends before the show started. Success! Mr. Normal walked past me and I instantly decided he was the best looking guy in the room. I grabbed a cocktail, kept my eye on him and contemplated whether I should approach him. After a couple minutes of wavering (slash making sure he wasn't waiting for a girl to meet him) I just boldly walked over and introduced myself. I can usually walk up to anyone in a room and introduce myself EXCEPT when I think a guy is really good looking - so I am REALLY proud of myself for not chickening out like usual. Turns out Mr. Normal and I have similar taste in music, have a good chemistry and had a blast hanging out all night! He bought me drinks, saved my spot for me when I ran to the bathroom (of course I returned the favor), and was just generally a gentleman (and did I mention that he is GORGEOUS?!?). Plus, he got my phone number and even texted me last night to tell me he had a good time with me! We tried to make plans to see each other this week, but we're both busy the next couple days and he leaves to go home for Christmas on Friday...we already have plans for when he gets back! :)
Phewf...okay, so that's a rundown of what's been going on with me for the past week. Oh, and I get to see co-worker guy again tonight! yay!
First, a confession: I caved and finally ended up meeting up with Pointless Guy and as expected, it was pretty pointless. Not only is he awkward but it was obvious to me that all he is after is a hook up. I went over to his place to watch a move...after I made him apologize for the way he had been treating me and especially making him cop to his mishandling of the Thursday night situation. When I got there he was wearing PJs, and then when he started the movie he turned off all the lights and instantly tried to snuggle with me. I played it off pretty well, even kissed him a bit, but ended up bolting pretty quickly after the movie was over. Now, even though I've made up my mind about not being interested in him, I am glad I had the chance to find out for sure. And also, because I didn't sleep with him, I doubt if I'll be hearing from him anytime soon anyway.
Now for the fun stuff...oh, where do I begin...?
I am totally smitten with a former co-worker of mine! We went out for Happy Hour on Friday and then met up again on Saturday night. I think what I like about him so much (besides the fact that he is darn cute) is that we have really great, neverending conversations. There is an ease to our chemistry that makes it feel really comfortable to be with him.
A few early red(ish) flags:
1. He's younger than me (though he told me on Friday he like to date older girls, was that a hint?)
2. He is admittedly anti-commitment (for the next couple years while he gets himself established, so he says)
3. I'm not sure we're more than friends
As they say, "when it rains it pours," and in that vane, I met another great guy on Monday! I ended up having to go to the Cold War Kids show at the Parish alone because it sold out so quickly...so rather than beg people to go with me or sell my ticket, I just decided to get dolled up, go early, and make some new friends before the show started. Success! Mr. Normal walked past me and I instantly decided he was the best looking guy in the room. I grabbed a cocktail, kept my eye on him and contemplated whether I should approach him. After a couple minutes of wavering (slash making sure he wasn't waiting for a girl to meet him) I just boldly walked over and introduced myself. I can usually walk up to anyone in a room and introduce myself EXCEPT when I think a guy is really good looking - so I am REALLY proud of myself for not chickening out like usual. Turns out Mr. Normal and I have similar taste in music, have a good chemistry and had a blast hanging out all night! He bought me drinks, saved my spot for me when I ran to the bathroom (of course I returned the favor), and was just generally a gentleman (and did I mention that he is GORGEOUS?!?). Plus, he got my phone number and even texted me last night to tell me he had a good time with me! We tried to make plans to see each other this week, but we're both busy the next couple days and he leaves to go home for Christmas on Friday...we already have plans for when he gets back! :)
Phewf...okay, so that's a rundown of what's been going on with me for the past week. Oh, and I get to see co-worker guy again tonight! yay!
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